So I am a hopeless romantic...okay fine not hopeless but I love a good love story. Ooh come on, don't act like you didn't know. You know that whole thing about show me your friends and I'll show you your character? My friends, hopeless romantics. Sweet Jesus, all of them! Some of them try to act like they ain't but I know acting. My poker face is really good when I put my mind to it and bluffing huh! am an artist. You should see my work.
On occasion, a lot of occasions, I do have my fantasies as to what my future husband will be. Yes, I do think of my future husband. No matter what I say or do am still a girl and yes I have planned my wedding a million times in my head-imagined every detail. By the way, my idea of an ideal guy changes with every knowledge I gain about life, men, women and myself. Right now I feel your ideal man should be someone you can accept. The whole thing about you can't change a man got me thinking. If that is the case then we should pick someone we won't want to change; someone we can accept. I'm talking to all you women who marry Mr. Potential. You think that with a little spit and polish you can turn that rugged fellow into a gem-not. I know we say that love is blind and by the time you open your eyes, you're stuck with someone with the most gruesome of habits. But, is love really blind or do we chose to close our eyes? It feels so good that you just don't want to see anything that'll make you think otherwise.
You will click. It won't feel like work being around him. You won't have to wonder what to say during those awkward silence moments. You'll just be. I kinda figured this out a long time ago but 'The Switch' and 'Bad Teacher' made me a believer in my own theory (okay, so it ain't my theory but hey.) There are people you feel were just created for you; friends that were put on the earth to share all your good and bad moments and men designed for you to date. They get your jokes and your conversations and you don't need to pretend to be anybody else. It's like you are cut from the same cloth...wait, why does that sound like incest? You get what I mean. You won't have to pretend to love football or rugby so that you have something in common. There won't be any of that unnecessary pressure.
He'll come when you are ready for him. I'm sure many people will find this debatable. The most annoying habit couplings have is to always try and get their single friends hooked. Everyone and I mean everyone is a potential for you. Then they give you all this pressure making you feel like you age twice as fast now that you are single and this is it, there will be no other offers ever in your life. But, it's never that serious if you don't want to date a guy don't, at least don't do it for the wrong reasons. Make sure you are not being rigid/reserved/conservative for rigid/reserved/conservative sake. You don't want to end up being the road block on your own path.
If you haven't noticed my ideal will not sweep me off my feet and carry me into the sunset. Perhaps because am above 12 years or perhaps because am talking about real life and not a T.V. drama...perhaps?
